Mirror vs. Mindset
The mirror. Defined as, “a surface that reflects or gives an image of an object placed in front of it”, but for so many people, mirrors hold much more weight than a mere reflecting object. For example, as babies, one of the typical new parent things your mom and dad probably did was show baby-you your reflection. If you ever get the opportunity to watch this take place, it’s really a rather beautiful thing to watch. To see the awe and excitement on a baby’s face when they realize they are looking at themselves is so joyful. Yet, somehow if we fast-forward 15 to 20 years, we laugh at the idea of ever being excited to see our reflection.
So where did it go wrong?
Why is it that time and maturity coincide with a growing lack of self-worth?
These are questions that haunt me everyday. Why is it that every morning when I stand in front of my bathroom sink, I’m always flooded with negative thoughts on anything from my less-than-perfect waste line or my slightly left-crooked nose? I don’t think that time or maturity is necessarily the culprit here. In fact, I would even go so far as to say it’s our own fault. Yes, you are you can be your own worst enemy on this. But before you get too offended and quit reading, just hear me out.
We constantly allow our minds to be bombarded by society. From celebrity social media pages to the demoralizing “catchy” song lyrics on the radio, we have created a mindset of what or who we are suppose to be from all the wrong places. How can you ever know the truth about your self-worth if your only sources of information are fictional? It’s like learning how to have a family by watching The Brady Bunch. You’re family is never going to be like the Brady Bunch(sorry to crush any dreams of you avid TVLand watchers out there), because it is a fictional, fairytale-like representation and that’s it. Sure, when I use that example it might seem like common sense, yet when regarding our self-image, we fall to this lie every day. But now that we have nailed down where we need to stop looking for answers, let’s try and answer the next question: Where can we find the truth? Where can we find healing?
There’s only one place that speaks truth into who you are, and that’s the Spirit-breathed, written words from your father. Your Heavenly Father.
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you Lord, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth.
So often we find ourselves in self-created “woe-is-me” situations that can defeat us and steal our joy, and most of us have the greatest cure to all these situations laying on our bedside table, yet never think to use it. I’m talking about the Bible. The Bible contains all the direction we need to achieve a fulfilling life, we just have to open the pages and read it first in order to receive His guidance. Seems simple enough, yet most of us still don’t do it. Romans 15:4 tells us, “For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope”. Did you get that? Reading scripture gives us hope for any situation. That means there’s no situation you encounter that God didn’t already know about or a problem He forgot to cover in His Word. Give your Creator some credit here, He has equipped us fully to face any battle. We just have to dive into His word and find it.
However, just merely reading the words at face value, closing the pages, and never giving that particular scripture a second thought won’t fix anything. His direction must be digested and applied, as well. In fact, 2 Timothy 2:7 says, “Think over what I say, for the Lord will give you understanding in everything”. He promises understanding to those who meditate and take His word to heart. That is when you will truly conquer problems, and that is when you will conquer your insecurities and battles with contentment, too. NOT just by temporarily fixing your physical “inadequacies”.
We can take that knowledge and apply it to scripture such as Psalms 139:13-15 (quoted previously); take to heart what this passage has to say in the battle against the mirror. Realize that you were uniquely crafted in your mother’s womb and hand designed by the God of the universe. Only the truth of God's word can show you that.
And if you have gotten absolutely nothing else from this, please just remember that who God says you are speaks so much louder into who you are than what a mirror can muster up. Jesus's death on the cross demonstrated His final and total love for you once and for all, giving you something infinitely more beautiful than any mirror could ever show.